there are three kinds of people. There are winners, who know what they
want and understand their potential and the possibilities. They take
life on. Next are losers, who don't have a clue as to who they are.
They allow circumstances to shape their lives and their self-image.
I believe there is a
third group as well. This consists of potential winners whose lives are just
slightly out of alignment. I call them wayward winners. It may be that they just
need to learn how to be real winners. Perhaps they've hit a bump or two that has
knocked them off course and they are temporarily befuddled. A failed
relationship, a lost job, financial problems, unformed goals, a lack of parental
support, illness, many things can send us off course temporarily.
Wayward winners are
not lost souls; they just need some tweaking and coaching and nudging to get
them back on course. A map might be nice. Many of these wayward winners are
easily identifiable because they are always searching.
Right now, there are
many wayward winners out there braving rain, sleet and snow because they too
still believe that they have untapped talents. They attend motivational seminars
and listen to inspirational tapes and they plunge onward, believing that sooner
or later they will find their way again.
Other wayward winners
have temporarily given up. They are damaged and disoriented, their confidence
badly eroded. They tend to drift through life numbly. The friends and relatives
and loved ones of wayward winners see that they are out of sync and wonder why
they can't be satisfied, why they don't settle down. They wonder how people who
have such obvious abilities and great potential can be so disoriented and
It is difficult for
others to understand the rawness of a broken heart or the aching emptiness of an
unguided spirit. You and I know. We have been there. Wayward winners know that
there are possibilities out there, but too often they feel locked out from them.
Some are afraid to risk any more because of what they have risked and lost
I know now that as
difficult as it may be for you wayward winners to do, it is necessary to
continue to test yourselves. Even though you have been hurt before, it is the
only way to grow. We all have the capacity to change, to lead meaningful and
productive lives by awakening our consciousness.
You know there are
going to be tough times as you go about changing your life, so brace yourself
and you will be able to handle them. When you get into your seat on an airplane,
what is the first thing they tell you to do? Fasten your seat belt. Brace
yourself for the turbulence.
When you decide to
move your life to the next level of accomplishment, you must fasten your mental
and spiritual seat belts because it is going to be a while before you reach that
comfortable level again. You will reach it, but you must endure the turbulence
of change in order to grow.
Try this technique to
help you through the difficult times of change and growth. Find four reasons why
you cannot succumb to your fears and your troubles. Find those deep sources of
motivation that can lift you out of the turbulence and above the clouds. You
must change your life because, for example:
You have not yet tapped the talents given you.
You want to leave something more for your children.
You want to live life rather than letting life live you.
You want to do what makes YOU happy.