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Breakthroughs To Success
by Jeffery Combs
Isn’t it time you broke through the
invisible barriers that keep you struggling? I believe that we are all
created brilliant, artistic, creative, and loving. It is our past, or
our emotions connected to our past, that keep us stuck. A
“Breakthrough” is the ability to create a rapid change, a shift in
thought, a synchronistic event, an ‘Ah-ha’ moment that allows us to
let go, to move through an invisible barrier, and to radically change
at any given moment. Can change be easy or is change hard? Isn’t that
the question?
I have been through a lot of changes in my
life. I spent fourteen years of my life from ages 18 to 32 as a practicing
addict and alcoholic. My addictions took me to a place of struggle, despair,
incarceration, and to living with my parents at age 31. I had suicidal thoughts,
believing that I could not end my insane behaviors. I felt unlovable,
unemployable, and unworthy, with my self-esteem so low that I was consuming a
gallon of vodka a day just to dull my pain. I did not believe that I could
change. Right before my thirty-second birthday I started having delirium
tremors, otherwise known as DT’s, a physical state where your body convulses. I
went to a doctor believing that I was having a heart attack. He immediately
called an ambulance and I was taken to a detox center. The center I was taken to
was a four day detox center, followed by a twenty-six day treatment program, and
I decided to stay the first night. I made a decision that night that I would
never take a drink again. I have been able to keep that commitment one day at a
time for 365 days for almost fifteen years.
Was this decision hard or was it easy? For me,
it was very hard to get to the point of reaching that one major decision.
However, once I made that decision, I found it was easy to stick with my
commitment. That one simple decision has been the most important decision of my
life. You see, at the point in my life when I made that particular decision to
never drink again, “the pain was great enough” for me to change. This is no
typically the best way to make Breakthroughs, but is typically the way most of
society changes.
I have had the privilege of personally
coaching well over 1,000 clients in the last few years and I have found that
most members of society make the decisions that have the most impact on their
lives when “their back is against the wall,” when they are destitute, when they
have failed over and over, or as I stated, “when the pain is great enough.” As
an entrepreneur, I ended up $65,000 upside down in credit card debt and also
borrowed $11,000 from two sources. I reached a point where the only way out of
my dilemma was massive success. Once again, I went to the well that never fails
me, and made a simple decision that I committed to. I decided I would not be
denied my success, peace, freedom, and self-love.
The real payoff has been the fifteen year
process in the journey, not just the financial reward. I believe it is not what
you get but what you become that matters most in life. What you become or what
you are is what you will attract. You will get what you expect. I refer to this
as the law of attraction. Breakthroughs are not nearly as difficult as we as a
society perceive. I have found through my coaching that the average person fears
success far more than failing. In order to succeed we let go of struggle, but if
struggle is all we know, then what will become of our ego? People fear success
(change) because it is the unknown, even though it is what they desire. People
begin to express fears such as, “Success might feel uncomfortable, it might
upset a loved one, and it might show up my family. I might out-earn my parents
or friends. What will the neighbors think? I won’t be able to handle success.
The IRS or government will take all my money. I can’t lead people. I don’t want
to be responsible.” These are all emotional reasons people struggle and avoid
change.
Knowing and understanding how to change
becomes the key, and now I am talking about why, not just how. Why
we do what we do becomes the beginning of change. This is about cause and
effect. If you only address the effect, then you never really get to the cause.
I created a 2-1/2 day workshop, “Breakthroughs
To Success,” for thirty people that takes place seven times a year to
specifically teaches the participants how to have “Breakthroughs” in the moment.
This workshop has become my signature product and is what I am most passionate
about – assisting people to change, now. During this event, an
environment is created that is so safe that the participants are able to take
off their egos for 2-1/2 days. A trust is formed where thirty people come
together and connect from a deeper level than they ever have connected before. I
call this connecting from the heart. We do exercises with “getting money right”
where people start to address their subconscious emotional resistance to money.
Barriers about trust and love start to come down and the participants start to
connect from their hearts and their souls – not from their heads. The
participants start to heal themselves and each other “in the moment” without
stopping to think what is and is not possible. Emotional weight is released and
old pain and repressed anger is addressed in this environment. In this workshop
I have seen and witnessed many, many examples of people changing in the moment.
I call this “changing without trying.”
Is changing hard or is it easy? This is a
matter of perception. Resisting change and continuing a pattern of self-sabotage
can last a lifetime, or at any given moment we can choose to make decisions in
the moment that allow us to change right now. It is not the physical act of
change that is so difficult. It is the decision that most people have the
greatest challenge with. You can choose to be a “struggleaholic” or you can
choose to be an “E.Z.ologist.” The choice is yours. Are you ready to
“Breakthrough” your own invisible barriers and discover the power of belief?
Jeffery Combs is an internationally
recognized speaker, trainer, and author committed to assisting people with
personal growth and development. He can be contacted online at
www.GoldenMastermind.com, or toll free 800-595-6632.
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